Realise that it doesn't always work out

Friendships won't always go according to plan. You may try to be friends with someone, but it just doesn't work out for reasons you can't do anything about. It could just be that you can't find anything in common. It might be that you used to be friends but now enjoy doing completely different things. Or a friend may have personal problems and just want to be left alone for a while.

Friends also may decide to do something which you do not want to do like shoplift, bully someone, joyride or take drugs. Keep in mind that real friends do not force people to do things that are harmful to themselves or to others. So if a friend says "let's steal from the shop and if you don't I'm not your friend anymore" or "if you don't join in bullying that kid, then our friendship is over", the friendship wasn't "worth anything" .

Some friendships come and go. Some will last a life-time, others only a day. If you've tried your best, perhaps it just wasn't meant to be.

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